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3 Tips For Return to School Screen Time Changes

Jul 31, 2020

Now that many of us will begin the school year with remote learning, parents are panicking about the increase in screen time. Many parents have allowed extra screen time to survive - a short term solution to a tough situation.  

Now what? As remote learning becomes a longer-term situation, many parents are uncomfortable with the amount of screen time their children have been getting but don’t know how to make the transition.  

Here are 3 tips for preparing for the upcoming school year - scaling back screen time without escalating conflict.

TIP #1: Communicate Expectations Now 

Don’t wait until school starts to communicate that screen time changes are coming. Do this now.  

Your child is as anxious about the upcoming school year as you are. They are nervous about learning from home. They miss their friends and fear life will never be the same. If you wait until school begins, when you’re both stressed, to break the news about less screen time, conflict is likely.

Instead, let them know now that screen time changes are coming. Tell them,

“You got extra screen time because we suddenly had to stay home so much, and we all struggled to handle the changes.  Even though it is fun, it’s not healthy to continue with as much as you have now. Once school starts, we will scale back, so enjoy your last few weeks of extra screen time!”

Letting them know in advance gives them time to prepare. Encouraging them to enjoy their last few weeks lets them know you are not anti-technology or trying to punish them. You are simply scaling back in order to secure their emotional and physical well-being.   

TIP #2: Separate Entertainment Screen Time From Other Screen Time

All screen time is not created equal. It is not the same to do an educational math program online as it is to play a game. It is not the same to make a video with iMovie as it is to watch a YouTube video made by someone else. 

There is an important difference between active engagement and passive consumption of media - these types of activities engage different parts of the brain and have different impacts emotionally and developmentally. This distinction has never been so important for parents to understand.  

Entertainment screen time is generally the source of conflict, so decide now how much will be appropriate for your child come fall- regardless of how much time they will spend online for school and social purposes. Then explain to your child what will happen: 

“You will be doing school on the computer and will continue to stay in touch with your friends online as well.  Separate from this, you will get an amount of screen time each day/week that is for pure entertainment. It’s not the same to learn or socialize online as it is to play games and watch videos,”

Note: Parents rightly ask whether group games count as social or entertainment. To determine, assess the nature of the game.  Which parts of the brain are likely engaged? Group online chess  = educational / social; Group Fortnite = entertainment.   

TIP #3: Set A Screen Time Routine

Set a screen time routine now that can continue once school starts.   This will communicate clear expectations and give you something to build on when remote learning begins. 

Sample Schedule:

8:30-10 am: Get ready, Eat Breakfast, Chores

10-11:00 am: Educational Screen Time

11:00 - 12:30 pm: Outdoors

12:30-1:30 pm: Lunch

1:30 - 3 pm: Playtime

3 - 4 pm: Social Screen Time

4-5:30: Entertainment Screen Time

5:30- 6:30 - Dinner

6:30- 8 pm - Family Hang Out

8 - 9 pm: Reading, Go to Bed 

This is just an example, but you can see how this summer schedule can easily morph into a fall schedule by expanding Educational Screen Time in the mornings.  Starting this type of routine now will make the fall changes much easier for you and your child to make.  

This coming school year is unprecedented and will inevitably be marked by surprise and unpredictability.  By clearly communicating expectations, explaining the differences between various types of screen time, and starting a routine now, you set yourself and your child up for a clear & smooth transition, at least in the area of screen time.

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5 Tips for Taming Screen Time Tantrums

Jul 23, 2020

“Nooooo. That’s not fair. I want to keep playing my game!!!” Does that sound familiar? At some point, most of our children have thrown a tantrum when told that their screen time is up. With the increase in screen time during COVID, more children are having difficulty logging off. So what do you do? Keep reading to learn 5 key tips for dealing with screen time tantrums.

Tip #1: Connect with your child

The first thing parents need to do is stay connected with their children. Logging off brings up big feelings for children, and their resistance to doing so brings up big feelings for parents! This can easily turn into a pattern of screen time conflict.  An easy mindset shift can prevent this from happening.  Normally parents approach screen time from a mindset of  “Screen time is terrible, get off now!” Instead, try saying “I absolutely understand why it’s so hard to get off of devices. They are built to hook your attention and keep you wanting more. I get it - I have a hard time logging off too sometimes. Let’s figure out how we can help make it easier.” Making this mindset shift lets your child know that it’s not their fault that it’s hard to unhook.  It is hard for everyone including you, and that you are in this together. By connecting with your child you are opening the door to a discussion that can lead to teaching your child the art of logging off their screen time.  You cannot influence your child if you are not connected with them.

Tip #2: Set a screen time routine

Children do better when they have a routine and know what to expect and when. It’s no different with screen time. Schedule screen time at the same time and duration every day. For example, my children do an hour of educational screen time from 10-11 am.  Then at 4 pm, they can use the family iPad for an hour of any age-appropriate content that they choose. A screen time routine reduces the constant, “Can I have my screen time now?” and makes it easier for children to engage in other activities as they know exactly when and how much screen time they will get.  

Tip #3: Pre-plan for log off time  

Make sure you and your child have come up with a plan in advance for how to help them log off. Talk your child through what they will do to wind down and shut down and what the plan is if they find it hard to unhook from their device. Perhaps you help set a timer that gives them 5 minutes to start to wrap up what they are doing online. Perhaps you can agree together on an enjoyable activity they can do after logging off, to make the unhooking process easier.  For some children, a way to celebrate their log off successes may help - a sticker chart, a special treat or a hug and tickle from a parent.  When the log off time comes along, make sure to be there to support their follow through on the plan.  Remember that logging off is difficult for all of us, so stay connected as they try to enact the plan you made together.   Having a plan makes it easier to anticipate and overcome difficulties when they arise. 

Tip #4: When all else fails...remove & rebuild

 If the first 3 tips aren’t working for your child, this is a sign that they are “in over their heads” with screen time.  They either can’t unhook or they aren’t (yet) willing to try.  Whichever the case, a screen time break will help.  Tell them that screen time is only available to children who can unhook enough to log off and that they will need to take a break from screen time until they seem ready to try again. Give your child a few days to unhook entirely (or just allow school-related tasks, if they’re back in school) and when you think they are ready, start again with a small amount of screen time to continue working on unhooking.  When they can log off without throwing a tantrum, slowly give them a bit more time until you reach their screen time limit.  This strategy will motivate your child to work on unhooking and allows you to see how much screen time your child can handle successfully. 

Tip #5: Don’t give up. You can do this.

Teach your child that tantrums won’t work. Throwing a tantrum should not result in getting screen time. Children should only be allowed more screen time when they have shown that they are able to responsibly manage it. In this case, a tantrum demonstrates the opposite - that they are not ready for the screen time that they have been given. This lesson may take a while to sink in but don’t give up, you’ll get there. 

This process is critical to the overall goal of equipping your child with the skills and habits needed for healthy tech use.  Logging off is hard for many adults so try to be patient with your child who hasn’t developed all of the cognitive skills to self-regulate their tech use! Teaching a child the art of unhooking is giving them a gift that will last a lifetime.  

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What to Do When Your Child Sneaks Screen Time

Jul 15, 2020

At some point or another, most kids sneak screen time. They stay on for an extra half hour while you’re distracted or lie to the babysitter about how much screen time you have authorized. They may even grab their phone from the docking station after you’re asleep. 

To understand how to address sneaking, we must first answer this question: Why would an otherwise honest kid go to these extremes for screen time?.

Children sneak because they’ve gotten hooked. Apps, games, platforms, and devices are designed specifically to hook our attention. Developers have studied the types of stimuli that best capture our attention and the types of rewards that keep us wanting more. Everyone is susceptible to getting hooked, including our children.

Although it’s not our children’s fault that they get hooked, dishonesty around screen time must be addressed. We cannot guide our children to use screens in healthy ways if they aren’t honest with us. So how do we handle the sneaking?

Connect With Your Child

In my clinical practice, I have seen children land in dangerous situations when they don’t trust their parents with the details of their online lives. Screen time mistakes do happen. Staying connected to children in these moments is critical to establishing the trust necessary to keep them safe online.

I once caught my daughter hiding in the closet playing a game on our iPad during homework time. At first, I reprimanded her for being dishonest and took the iPad away. We ended up disconnected, and all she learned from the exchange was that her mother is mean and doesn’t want her to enjoy games! 

I knew there was a better way. I asked her for a “redo.”  This time I started by connecting with her.

“I understand why you want to play this game. I enjoy my online games too. I see how fun it is for you and I want you to be able to enjoy it.”

With this approach, she felt understood instead of judged. She knew I was being honest because I do enjoy my screen time. Connected to me, she was more likely to learn from the dialogue that came next.

Educate About The Tricky Aspects of Screen Time

Next, I educated her about how the design of the game left her wanting more, and we explored how this led her to sneaking.  

“The people who developed that game really know how to make it hook children. They make it really fun and rewarding by moving up levels and earning points. This leaves you thinking about the game and wanting more even when it isn’t your screen time. Does that sound like what happened?”

Instead of acting like she was the problem, I helped her identify the real problem - the design of the game.

Motivate To Learn Healthy Tech Use

Now I needed to teach her how to unhook from her game.  But first, I needed her to get on board with this process.

“Though I totally understand how this happened, it’s not OK for you to sneak screen time. In this house, you get screen time when you use it in healthy ways. This means being honest and working on not getting hooked. Sneaking is a sign that you are hooked, so you will take a couple of days off screens. When you are ready to work on unhooking and staying honest, you can try again. Make sense?”

Though she didn’t like it, the plan was clear and fair and protected her from getting too hooked. She was motivated to work on healthy tech use because her screen time depended on it.

Make a Plan for Practicing Healthy Tech Use

My daughter’s “break” from screen time lasted two days. At that point, I could tell she was ready to handle screen time in a new way. We looked at her game together and figured out what had hooked her. We explored whether it was a game she could manage or not. We made a plan for what she could do next time she wanted to play at the wrong time (hide the iPad, distract herself, remember that sneaking will make her lose screen time). She got her screen time back and was now motivated to use it more honestly. 

Instead of punishing when your child sneaks screen time, use it as an opportunity to teach them about healthy tech use. Give them a screen time break, help them make a plan, and then send them back online to work on enjoying screen time without getting hooked. 

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Don't Use Screen Time as a Reward or Punishment - Do This Instead

Jul 09, 2020

 “If you clean your room, you can play an extra half hour of your game”

“You hit your sister.  I’m taking away your iPad for the night.”

“You can get a phone when you get an A in math..”

As parents, we all are tempted to use screen time as a reward or punishment. Why? Because it works! But a recent study found that using screen time this way can actually make children want more screen time, and can make tech use harder to manage in the long term.  

Let's take a look at the 3 common effects of using screen time to reward and punish non-screen related behaviors:

You make your child want their screen more. A reward by nature is something to want. So when you offer screen time in this way, you communicate that screen time is something to covet. Because most apps and device-use cause dopamine to be released in the brain, they are highly addictive and we don’t need to further elevate their status in the minds of our children. 

You ‘muddy the waters’ on a high-risk topic. What does screen time have to do with getting along with siblings or finishing math? Nothing. It doesn’t make sense and it doesn’t teach anything. At the end of rewarding and punishing in this way, your child still knows very little about how to use technology in healthy ways or what role screen time plays in a healthy lifestyle. Given the risks inherent in internet use and screen time addiction, we can’t afford to be so confusing.

You create more screen time struggles over time. You may get your child to behave short term, but soon your child will constantly bargain for screen time. “But I cleaned my room! Why can’t I play my game now?” “If I help my sister with her homework, can I watch an extra Netflix show?” This will drive you nuts. You will pull out your hair trying to think of some system that makes sense and some message about screen time that is consistent. 

Instead, let’s talk about an approach that works. Screen time should be given and taken away according to one factor, and one factor only: how skillfully your child uses their devices. Give more screen time, or more independence when your child uses devices responsibly and in balance with other life activities. Take away screen time when your child uses their device unsafely, dishonestly, or without balance.  Period.  End of story.  

When we leverage screen time in this way, we...

Keep our children safe. Tech use limits are in place to keep our children safe - safe from addictive patterns of usage, and age-inappropriate content. - while they learn to use devices wisely. When we increase access (only) when kids demonstrate wise usage, we avoid letting them get in over their heads.  Their behavior communicates what they are ready for, and we dole out tech use accordingly.

Communicate the seriousness of tech use.  With this approach, our tech limits are meaningful. They are in place to keep our kids safe, and so they are removed (slowly) as our kids learn to keep themselves safe. Think Driver’s Ed.  We wouldn’t give the keys to the car because our child got an A in math.  We give keys to the car based on competency. Let’s treat screen time with the same level of caution. 

Rely on natural consequences that make sense to kids.  Your child will understand the logic behind losing screen time for unbalanced or unsafe tech behavior and getting more screen time privileges when they use it wisely.  The system is coherent and clear.  Your child may not always like it, but they are more likely to comply with this kind of system than an arbitrary one.  

Motivate our children to learn healthy tech skills. When your child truly understands that their screen time depends on their ability to use it appropriately, they become open to learning how.  This allows you to mentor them in healthy tech use. They will begin to try to log off when their time is up, to put their phones away at dinner time, to get their homework done without the distraction of games or messages.  Your screen time plan keeps them moving in the right direction.

Reduce conflict with a clear path to independent tech use. Because their brains are still developing, children cannot limit their own screen time or pick age-appropriate content.  However, we want them to be able to do both by late adolescence when they leave our homes. With this approach, we incrementally allow them to make their own choices as they demonstrate the ability to make wise ones. This process takes years, but parents and children unite (rather than fight) because the path is clear.

So stop using tech as a reward or punishment for other behavior and start to set your screen time plan up for success. If you’re wondering what this approach looks like in action, stay tuned for the blog next week when I get into the topic of how to handle it when your child sneaks in screen time.

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It's Not Your Child's Fault That They Can't Put Down Their Device

Jun 24, 2020

If your child is anything like mine, they gravitate to a screen like a moth to a flame. They click and scroll, watch and play, oblivious to everyone and everything. It evokes frustration, fear, and fury, and can lead to argument after argument.  

Your child’s difficulty logging off is not their fault. And it’s not your fault either. Tech developers have capitalized on hard-wired aspects of the human brain to create platforms that are as addictive as possible. The human brain loves stimuli that create rewarding experiences. Each time the brain experiences something pleasurable, it releases a tiny shot of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that produces a pleasant, satisfying feeling. Then the brain craves the next experience that provides another shot of dopamine. When these rewarding moments come at unpredictable intervals, the brain is chronically left wanting more. 

All media platforms have been created with this in mind. First, something calls your attention (a vibrating phone, an intriguing headline). When you click, you begin to seek a rewarding experience - connecting to others (texting, social media), social approval (likes), acquiring assets (online shopping, news, recipes), accomplishments (winning games), entertainment/relaxation (YouTube, Netflix), etc. These experiences happen at unpredictable times, which leaves you clicking the next link, playing the next level, and checking the next text. This is how our children get hooked. This is how we get hooked. Everyone is hooked not because we are weak or inept, but because we have human brains. And because the developers are really good at what they do! 

Understanding the brain science behind screen time can begin to transform your relationship with your child in this area of home life. Generally, when we see our kids unable to put down the screens, we angrily pull the devices away or lecture them about the evils of tech. We approach the problem as if it’s only our kids who get hooked. This inadvertently communicates that we think they are too weak to fight the addictive nature of their devices and that we, as adults, do not suffer from the same malady. But our children see the truth - that we too are hooked. We may try to hide it, but they know that we can’t stop either. This discrepancy builds resentment, lack of trust and plays a critical role in screen time conflict in the home.

Instead, when we acknowledge we are all hooked, our children begin to trust us, which paves the way for us to help them manage their tech use. If we explain how the device is designed to interact with our brain to create an addictive pattern, we can all stop judging and start dealing with the real problem - how to unhook so that devices enhance our lives rather than control them. With this approach, we unite with rather than fight with our children. We can laugh about how we are all moths drawn to the flame with our screens, and then work together to learn how to navigate this tricky aspect of modern life.  

So, the next time you see your child gripping their iPad as if their life depended on it, remember it is not their fault and they are not alone. Share with them a similar experience you have had. Then, discuss how the platform design has left them wanting more of some enticing variable reward. Together you can begin the critical exploration of how we can enjoy our screens without being controlled by them.  

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“Mom, I’m done with screen time. I’m going outside.” It's Possible.

Jun 18, 2020

Parents were feeling anxious about their children’s screen time before COVID, but now this anxiety has spiked as screen time feels out of control. Before COVID, it was challenging, but possible, to limit children’s access to devices. But now, with schooling, socializing and activities all streaming online, parents are at a loss as to what to do. Why are we feeling so much anxiety over screen time to begin with?  What can we do now that children’s usage has ramped up? 

Studies have shown that too much screen time (and/or the wrong content) can have a negative impact on children. As a result, we have relied on trying to keep tech usage within a satisfactory range to protect our children. We are anxious because we have been looking for the magic number - the “right” amount of screen time, the “right” type of screen time - to keep our children healthy.  

The concept of this “right” screen time is even more confusing during the COVID era.  This is making parents even more anxious, as we feel lost and without a playbook. But, we have been looking at this the wrong way. Most screen time approaches focus solely on finding the right tech use limits. Limiting tech use is an important part of any screen time plan, but it is only one part. We have to move beyond just limits.

When we set screen time limits, we take the devices away rather than teaching our kids to do this themselves. Screen time limits do not teach our kids how to use technology wisely - how to notice the effects of tech on their mood, how to log off despite urges to continue, how to maintain a balance between online and offline lives, etc. 

When you learned to drive a car, was there a plan, method, or process that ensured you weren’t going to plow into a mailbox or speed into oncoming traffic? Of course there was. No one handed you the keys and expected you to figure out how to drive safely. Someone trained you, first by slowly and methodically teaching the skill sets. Then they closely monitored you while you practiced - beginning in parking lots, then side streets, larger thoroughfares, and finally on the freeway. A driver’s license was granted upon demonstration of competency and safety. 

We need to take the same approach to screen time - one that emphasizes training from a young age, and monitors the development of tech use skills. Let’s do Driver’s Ed for smartphones. 

What does that mean? To start, it requires that parents shift their mindset. Begin to play around with the idea of training your child to use their devices wisely. Let’s help our kids understand why it’s so hard to turn off their screen and share with them strategies we have developed for logging off when we are tempted to stay on. Let’s teach our kids how to notice the effects of tech on their mood, and how to find the willingness to take care of themselves by keeping tech use in balance with other aspects of their lives. Let’s show our children how, by learning these concepts and strategies, tech can enhance their lives -rather than control them. 

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Why Your Child Doesn’t Listen to You When it Comes to Screen Time

Jun 12, 2020

Thank goodness for technology! 

So often with our children, we focus on the negatives of tech use, trying to make them understand all of the dangers and pitfalls. And there are negatives, no denying it, but that is only part of the equation.

To have an honest conversation about tech, we have to acknowledge the positives too. To be respected and credible mentors to our children in the area of technology use, we have to notice and celebrate what youth and their devices bring into this world.  

Now is the perfect time to do this. The world is standing up for equality, and young people and their smartphones are making it happen. 

For generations, African-Americans have been killed in darkness, with only those complicit or silenced watching. Now, because of a young woman with a phone, the world sees what happened to George Floyd (and so many others). Because of the smartphone, the deep roots of racism are seen on camera, making it harder to forget, ignore, or pretend.  

While we often dismiss young people’s interest in social media as shallow, it is because of social media that the world can connect and demand change. Youth are leading the current protests in countries around the world, communicating by Instagram, Twitter, Facebook. The power of social media is turning their voices into movements that cross all borders.  

My 19-year-old nephew texted a friend with an idea to organize a protest in Oakland. For five days they sent out Insta posts, tweets, organized via Zoom calls - and 15,000 masked people emerged quietly from self-isolation to make their voices heard. These protests, with young people at the helm, are being organized in a worldwide quarantine, and they will change the trajectory of racism in our world. How? The smartphone.

Our children don’t need us to judge their tech use. The youth do not need us to take away their devices. They need us to show them how to avoid the pitfalls and tricky aspects of tech use so that they can harness the power that is placed into their hands with a smartphone and use it to enhance their lives and improve the world.   

Begin by talking to your child about the benefits of technology - smartphones, social media, all of it. Take a tech positive stance. If you are talking to them about the protests occurring right now, show them how technology is making this moment possible. Ask them to show you what they love on their smartphone, or what they have re-posted on their Insta account. Connect over tech use - this way they will actually listen to you when you talk about your screen time concerns. Tell them that while devices have pitfalls that you must prepare them for, the technology contained in their smartphone can be used in unfathomable ways and that you want them to enjoy and harness this power for good.  

This world is quickly changing. Our children will face global, existential challenges in their lifetime that we cannot yet imagine. They will need to communicate, organize, entertain, and educate - as a global community. Teaching your child to use their smartphone wisely could be the most important thing you ever do for their future.

Clinical Psychologist

 

About Beyond Limits Academy

Beyond Limits is a simple step-by-step online program that teaches parents how to prepare their children for a lifetime of safe and healthy technology use. Going beyond just screen time limits, our skills-based approach provides a clear road map that reduces conflict and sets children up to manage their own tech use independently and responsibly. In an increasingly digital world, preparing our children to use technology wisely is no longer an option . . . it's a necessity.


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Put Screen Time Struggles Behind You Once and For All

Jun 04, 2020
 

Maybe you’ve told your kid a dozen times to put the iPad down. Maybe you have gotten into arguments with your child over screen time. Maybe you watch your kid gaming or texting and fear ‘losing them’ to the screen. Maybe your kid has been caught sneaking their phone in the middle of the night. Maybe…

As a clinical psychologist, my colleagues and I have seen all of these scenarios and more. These situations are complicated, nuanced, and insidious. Parenting methods of the past are not solving the problems that technology-use presents to today’s families. This is because technology is designed to engage us based on the fundamentals of our physiology, and so healthy tech use requires a specific skill set that parents are neither familiar with nor prepared to teach their children.  

However, the field of psychology offers a wealth of strategies and techniques to teach and foster self-regulation that can be applied to the area of technology use. We have successfully used these practices with many families - bringing them back together and guiding children to wise, balanced, self-regulated technology use. I co-founded Beyond Limits Academy to make these techniques as accessible as possible.

A healthy relationship with technology is critical for life in the 21st century.  Equipping your children with these skills may seem daunting, but it is actually quite doable. Beyond Limits Academy is here to show you how and to support you along the way. 

Clinical Psychologist

 

About Beyond Limits Academy

Beyond Limits is a simple step-by-step online program that teaches parents how to prepare their children for a lifetime of safe and healthy technology use. Going beyond just screen time limits, our skills-based approach provides a clear road map that reduces conflict and sets children up to manage their own tech use independently and responsibly. In an increasingly digital world, preparing our children to use technology wisely is no longer an option . . . it's a necessity.


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